Exactly. Everything from the art design to the writing of the film was tailored to a 2009 audience, not the audience that watched the original series...and not the audience who grew up with Trek. Oh, it was packed full of nods and subtle design consistencies, the same characters (reimagined, but instantly recognizable), and the "wrapper" of Star Trek. But this film remains, at its heart, a hybrid of old and new. I don't consider it the same Trek that I grew up with, but that doesn't mean I don't appreciate what it does well using that material as a foundation. Think of it like an adaptation, rather than a sequel or a reboot. You take a novel and adapt it to film...things must change. Nothing ever transitions perfectly. Now, in this context, you take a beloved franchise and attempt to reignite popular interest beyond the original fanbase. In much the same way as any adaptation, elements must change...not only to bring new ideas to the screen (to entice a broader audience), but also to pay respect to that which should not simply be copied for its own sake.
In my mind...TOS, the original films, TNG, DS9, VOY, and ENT stand on one line, and this new film (and its successors) stand on another. And quite frankly, that's fine with me. I find myself less disappointed with the little errors and inconsistencies that way.

~Josh F.
A well developed story is not bound by generational timespans. Visuals and storyTelling may change, but a well developed story doesn't change.
I do agree with most of what you stated, in spirit at least. Things DID need a reboot/redo. The first time I read about the movie, I was excited! The trouble is, most times, when things are "Redone" they are brought over so poorly, yea. I'm an avid reader, same with I'd wager many of you guys here. I've seen so many things just totally butchered, it is just depressing. Things can be redone/brought over/adapted without such such travesty.
Not that ST09 was a travesty, but for the money, time and hype the created/spent, by damn they failed. They didn't fail via the numbers, sadly. The movie was going to make money, good or bad, it didn't matter. lol Really if the whole movie could have extended the feel of the first five or six min, hell yea. Yes, I know there are problems with the first few min via inconsistent to canon, but as you said, some things can be overlooked if everything else is up to par.
Maybe, you might be right. The new way of storytelling just isn't my thing. I just see a lot of crap after crap. Not just with ST but most movies in general. I digress though.
I could forgive everything in ST09 if it were not for one thing. One, very specific thing.
I work at a gas station and I do the order for magazines. We get a lot of scifi-science-geek magazines because of this. We did get the ST one for awhile and within one of them, it was the writers/JJA that defended their "alternate reality" with science. Before making any thought judgements, continue reading.
It wasn't because they used science to defend it, but because they used science to defend it and then throw science out the window when it came to some of the very major story elements. I do like the movie, I love all the star trek movies. I'm a fan of star trek. lol But, but. That little quip just didn't sit right with me at all. We could all agree that probably many of the main problems people have with the movie could have been changed and not impacted the average viewers enjoyment correct? Would the average person care if the Enterprise was at warp or not at warp when escaping? The suspense would have been built, the viewscreen can crack. All is good. Instead of being at warp, they can't go to warp, and Scottie's idea is still the same...eject the (singular) warp core, big boob and now the breach in space/time is being sealed and they get away.
To the average viewer, all the elements are there for them to enjoy the end scene. Had JJ/the writers done their job also, the end scene would be more believable, even for the world of Trek, for the trek fan. While I'm sure we can find some random technicality as to why the ship was still at warp with no warp core, when max warp couldn't get them out, that isn't the point.
If JJ/the writers actually used science/trek science, the fans would have been happy (for the most part) and the average movie viewer would have been happy.. especially since they used "science" to defend the alternate universe route they took.
Sorry, I could go on and on. I'd love to have a chance at rewriting some of the things in the movie. Most of it is fine, but there are very specific things that, gah, just make no sense in any reality. lol